Moving Along

He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass… 

It took me weeks to finally convince myself to pick up the phone and call my ex-hubs. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and Dad was absolutely right. Yes, believe it or not Dad shared some words of wisdom base on his failed marriages, as he calls it. So last night I called my ex-hubs and said the words that would eventually set him free from all the guilt he’s been feeling. He cried on the phone through out our conversation and it somehow made me teary eyed, too. I didn’t know my forgiveness meant that much and more to him. I even had a short talk with his partner, who gladly offered peace and friendship.

And as I close this chapter of my life. I realized how selfish I’ve been, holding on to that forgiveness he deserves. People make mistakes, and he did do me wrong. But it’s nothing compared to how I made him suffer all these years. What is there to gain besides making both our lives miserable? It’s definitely one hard lesson learned. And I’m dawdly learning, that hatred should never have a place in my heart.